Question For Parents: Would You Ask The Kid Who Their Parents Were And Go Speak To Them Over This?
February 8th, 2010
How would you react if someone confronted you about your kids behavior?
We live in an apartment (and hate apartment living) I’ve noticed kids as young as 4 run around unsupervised it seems.
Well yesterday I was bathing my dogs and one was laying on my bed during this and I kept getting onto her because she would under her breath go “ruff ruff” every few minutes.
I then came out to see what was up and I heard kids laughing and I heard a scratching on my window screen. And my dog starting barking like crazy. I opened the blinds and sure enough 2 kids around 6-7 years old were there and they ran off when my dog jump up at the window and they saw me. I think they were trying to get my dog riled up. I saw where they live.
They had climed under the bushes (we like those bushes because they give us more privacy….we tend to keep to ourselves) and they were scratching our window screen and hitting our air conditioner unit with a stick
We know they will probably do it again. If they do should I confront them and ask who there parents are and speak with there parents or shoud I go straight to management?
I know there are kids left here unsupervised all the time….they get off the bus and Mom isn’t home yet or dad isn’t home yet or both…..and they just run around the complex….there is no playground (whats left of it is a dilapidated slide) and they play in the street…..they will just sit in the middle of the street.
We need a playground.
I don’t want to be confrontational with the parents but kids have been doing this for awhile this is just the first time I caught them.
Should I speak with the parents or talk to management. (The complex doesn’t like neighbors to confront each other)
What would you do?
well if the complex doesn’t like neighbors confronting each other i say talk to management right directly. first of all if you go right to the parents they may just get annoyed and brush you off instead of taking their children’s rude behavior seriously. at least of you talk to management THEY can talk to the parents and let them know of (if there are) consequences for their children disturbing other people in the complex. and the management won’t say it was YOU so this way there will be no retaliation. if you see the kids at your window or doing something that is harming your property (like getting your dogs riled or hitting your Ac) i would simply tell them to knock it off. if they continued i would go to the complex management again if that didn’t work i would confront the parents myself.
If the complex doesn’t like neighbors confronting each other then talk to management. If management does nothing I would start calling the police or DFACS (Or whatever family and children service you have) and report child endangerment. Probably neglect as well since these are small children left alone.
you need to talk to them and the law also to talk to the kids about safety, cause if they rile your dog up and she bites them, guess who’s being put to sleep ?> not those stupid kids, your beloved dog
talk to the management
Personally, I’d start with talking to the kids. If their parents think that they are old enough to go out on their own like that, then they should know that they will encounter other people in the world, people who have the right to say ‘I don’t like what you’re doing to me or my property’.
Additionally, if you know these kids are unsupervised at that age, you really should let someone in authority know about it. That is not safe for the kids to be alone like that. What if they’re tapping on the window of a pedophile?
I would definately go to their parents, you never know if the management will actually talk to them or not anyway. I am a young mother with 4 small kids 9 and under and I would much rather you come to me if my children were misbehaving then go to the management. I know alot of parents don’t dicipline their children anymore for some reason so if talking to the parents doesn’t help then I would definately go to the management. Good Luck!!
Parents and Management, in my opinion. The kids are out playing in the street and unsafe, and causing problems in the neighborhood when they are their the parents’ responsibility. It’s not like they are YOUR kids, so they shouldn’t be causing you problems.
Seriously, if I just left my dog out for hours out of the day to run around in the street you know I’d have him taken away… what kind of parents would cause such a recipe for disaster and leave their kids alone like that?
Children of that age should not be left unsupervised. The parents need to be held responsible for their children’s actions. I would talk to the parents in as nonconfrontational manner as possible. You could tell them that your dog is easily excitable and that you would appreciate them not getting close to your apartment. If they don’t comply with your wishes them you could always go the hardcore route. If the children are actually left home alone at that age it is a safety issue for the children. A call to your county Children and Youth Services is in order. This is just my humble honest opinion, your mileage may vary. :^P
I would put rat traps in the bushes. I will bet after the first one loses a finger none of them will ever go near your house again. (or you can use mouse traps if you would like them to keep their fingers in tact. As for the parents, heck where are they now that they do not see what their demons are doing?